Funeral Professionals often don’t get the recognition and respect they deserve. Unless you have personally experienced the services they provide, you may not be aware of the Funeral Director role and how it impacts your ability to cope during the loss of a loved one.
In the Spirit of Thanks Giving, Connecting Directors highlights 10 reasons why we should be thankful for funeral professionals.
1. They are superheroes
Let’s be honest, if you know a funeral director, you know that they’re not just a funeral director, but a real life superhero. Who can make a stranger’s deceased grandmother look younger than she did twenty years ago? Superheroes. Who can plan four family funeral services in two days and also host the most awesome Thanksgiving dinner the next day? Superheroes. Who can deal with the smells in the embalming room without turning up their nose? Superheroes only. Do we need any other proof that funeral professionals have powers unlike anyone else?
2. They’ve got enough life insight for the rest of us
Hanging around the grim reaper day in and day out teaches you some serious life lessons faster than most others. Funeral directors have seen far too many people “go to soon” to even think about wasting their life on things that don’t matter. Sit down with a funeral director and you’ll quickly learn that time spent with these wonderful humans will result in either a great story or a seriously insightful life lesson.
3. They actually enjoy what they do
As you read this, you may be sitting at your desk working a job that maybe isn’t your passion. Well, that’s not the case for funeral directors. I don’t know any funeral directors who are doing it “just because they couldn’t find anything better” and I certainly don’t know anyone in the funeral profession that’s just in it for the money. They’re in it for the long hall. This is their life passion. And that deserves a great amount of respect in my book.
4. They get more slack than most other professionals
And they take it well. Have you ever dealt with a crazy grieving person? Or a family fighting over where mom’s ashes should be spread? Can you really imagine what it would be like to carry out a family’s plans with NO errors at all? Think about the copious amounts of pressure that creates. Not only do funeral directors do ALL of this, but they do so much more. They take care of their families AND everyone else’s. Yet somehow, they still maintain their sanity (for the most part).
5. Funeral professionals are truly healing the world
Doctors heal your wounds. Therapists heal your mind. Funeral directors heal your heart. In fact, the funeral profession may be one of the only heart-centered professions out there. A funeral director’s job is to literally help you in the midst of the most overwhelming moment of your life. You’ve just experienced the most intense grief you will know, and guess who’s professionally trained to be there for you and help you face your future? Funeral professionals.
6. They take care of the unimaginable
When your job is to sew broken limbs back onto bodies and cover up the signs of rigor mortis with makeup, you know you’ve seen it all. Just let your imagination wander into the strangest things you think could ever find at a funeral home, and it’s probably happened. Funeral directors have seen it all, and yet they’re still “cool.”
7. They’re the only people in the world that can make death “easy”
Make no mistake… facing the death of a loved one is the hardest thing any of us will ever have to go through. All of the nitty gritty details are enough to make you dizzy. First off there’s the grief, and then there’s the little things like the death certificate, deciding between cremation and burial, life insurance, and the list goes on. When death comes, it sometimes feels like funeral directors have been sent from the heavens, because they literally handle every single “how-would-I-ever-think-of-that?” detail.
8. No one can celebrate a life like they can
Sure, anyone can plan a decent funeral. But funeral directors know best. Is it a dove release what you’re looking for? Want to send your loved one’s ashes into space? Turn them into a tree? Cremate them and have their ashes formed into a diamond? Anything you need, funeral directors can work their magic to create. They’ve got connections. They know what’s up. This ain’t their first rodeo, and they’ve got our backs. For that, we are thankful.
9. They’re probably working at this very moment
Yes, we realize it could be 2:30am or it could be 11pm while you’re reading this blog. And yes, they’re working. Caleb Wilde said it best when he said, “You know what they call a lazy funeral director? They call ‘em dead. Because the only time most funeral directors quit working is when they die or get maimed by a unicorn.”
10. They expect nothing in return
If we haven’t made it clear already, funeral directors AREN’T in it for the money. They aren’t trying to get famous. They certainly aren’t in it for the work/life balance. The only thing funeral directors want in return for their hard work is your appreciation. They live for the “you’ve made my family’s life so much easier” and the “I couldn’t do this without you” comments. It’s what reminds them why they chose this profession in the first place.
So next time you happen to find yourself in a funeral home, take the time to thank your funeral director. Your gratitude will make their day, if not their week. Heck, maybe even their month.
Being a funeral director isn’t for everyone…
But someone’s got to do it. Only a chosen few have the courage, the big heart, the listening ears, and the organized mind it takes to serve this world as a funeral professional.